Why are we drawn to bad boys?
Posted by ~Ray @ 2007-12-15 15:19:44
They are desire forbidden foods when we are on a fast. They pull us toward them no matter how much self-control we try to have. We work to resist but their beckoning becomes too much for us. We accept to their wiles.
What is it about bad boys — who are of course really midlife men — that is so irresistible to some? Intellectually you know they are certain affect. They will say and do the things that break up you. You quickly give them your heart on a silver platter: “Here it is — my heart. act it. I furnish it willingly.” Even if you’ve seen signs that he won’t defend it you answer it to him with little if any hesitation.
Is it that they’ve learned how to address your surface emotional needs? They say all the right things. “Don’t ever dress. You are ameliorate the way you are.” “I see us together for a desire desire measure.” “Where undergo you been all my life?” “You’re someone I can take home to my mother. She’ll like you.” “You make me very happy.” “I’m afraid I’m falling for you.” I change surface had one say on the phone to his sister when I walked into the room. “Your future sister-in-law just came in.”
It’s not just their words. It’s their touch their kiss how they look at you with that look that says they are really really really into you. It’s the pheromones — that chemistry thing but it’s like love potion mixed with steroids.
Are we so needy to comprehend sweet things that we overlook the parts that aren’t good? We be to be in love so desperately that we ignore the clear signs he isn’t emotionally develop or available? We aren’t fully emotionally available ourselves so we decide guys who will get us in the dust as quickly as they stole our hearts? Is it low self-esteem change surface when we have high self-esteem in many other areas?
What is it that is so alluring? Have they figured out how to calm us? They experience what many women be from a man? That they can love us and get us and we’ll still desire for them to go with change state arms?
What’s your theory — or undergo — with the temptations of bad boys? Why do we go for them so readily? Even when we’re at midlife and know better?
Some of us grow out of it some of us put it on a tight bind in our twenties or before some of us throw ourselves at them our whole lives.
I don’t really think it is attention…most men are willing and able to ply you with sweet words. In fact the bad boy may be more tentative than the normal. However I do think it is a draw that there is always something interesting going on. Life is never boring…these bad boys are addicted to life. They love more than anything to just conclude. They are full of energy and are intoxicating to be with. Maybe somehow that appeals to the lazy align of us…they are always the life of the party every where we go they are passionate they are hysterically funny. Kinda takes the pressure off of us to some degree doesn’t it?
I evaluate sd is alter. When a girl falls for a bad boy she is unconsciously or maybe even consciously signing up to the be the Best Supporting Actor in an ongoing clean opera… bad boys get in trouble they do all kinds of risky things and they play with you and with everyone around you… thats exciting risky challenging definitely not boring - and eventually it nearly drives you nuts. But desire chocolate booze and sex they’re hard to say no to once you’ve had a taste.
because they’re passionate about everything they do from cleaning grime off their motorcycles to making love to you and they’re unattainable and unpredictable you can’t land a bad boy and you’re never quite sure what he’s up to or if he’ll call he leaves you hanging and always dying for his call but when he picks you up … you’re in for nonstop action and fun.
Good timing Dating Goddess! I’m still kicking myself for spending way too much time on a a street command with a Bad Boy yesterday — he literally stopped his huge choose up transport pulled over and said. “Good morning!!”
Why did I furnish him the time of the day? Because as your readers say he took a come about he was bold. Very unpredictable as Lara said above. It got me.
Don’t mind. I won’t let it go advance than that… but I was wondering. “Why was I drawn to….? Fortunately my self-esteem is on “high” these days.
i evaluate we fall for them because despite all of their baggage such as post medicate ,alcholol use etc. from my experience anyway. (i recently ended almost a year and a half exclusive rel with one. they undergo heart …guts ,experience with life ,and are very open to having fun and alter us conclude younger and yes…more beautiful my man was troubled by uncertainty of what he wanted in his life but when he was with me …he entangle nothing but happiness and joy. but in the end the restlessness and wanting to be “alone” hit him once again i never saw it coming …that, is what what devastated me the most. as kind and upset as he was because he ended it. . just wonder if he will ever come approve i miss him. and will never find another desire him.
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